I'm Independent....Not Stubborn
This blog is brought to you by an incredible weekend of laziness and way to much time to think.
The weekend started out pretty hopeful. It was the first weekend in a while that I didn't have big plans, I knew I would be able to sleep and be lazy. I even had a date (quick meet and greet) scheduled Saturday.
I've had a cold all week but I didn't want to be groggy Saturday so I didn't take NyQuil and I set my alarm so I could get up early and fancy up for this guy I've never met. Now before all my friends with kids judge me for having to set an alarm for 10:00am...let me just say this...you decided to have those babies so don't you judge me for being single and childless, lol ;)
30 minutes before I'm supposed to meet this dude, he messages me and says he's still got a ton of errands to run and would like to reschedule. WTF. We'll fortunately for him I've got a pretty thick skin and besides, hanging out with my Mom at Costco is a much better use of my time.
So naturally after experiencing the devastation of being stood up I decided it was only right that I treat myself to a facial at the Hand & Stone Massage place in Draper...money we'll spend ladies. Just do it. Don't think about it. Just do it. Weekend redeemed.
To make the weekend even more epic myself and a friend of mine (Heather) crashed our mutual friends night out with her husband (Sarah). You two are the best! We followed it up with a showing of Beauty and the Beast - GLORIOUS!
Soooooo why the blog post right....We'll flash forward to today. I took NyQuil last night so I could get some solid rest. Turns out when I sleep more than 7 hours I have dreams about bears and wolves...unpleasant. I didn't wake up until 11:30am (don't judge me). It was delightful. I went to my moms house to make myself an omelet. Why my Mom's you ask? Because I wanted to visit with my cat. (judge me...I don't care).
After spending most of the day being lazy AF I did my nails and came home, showered (even shaved the legs #effort) and then painted my toenails (pail pink sparkle...I know you were wondering).
Just as I was laying down to decide if I was ready to sleep or watch hours and hours of Netflix I had a renewed motivation to forge ahead and find a new guy to chat with on POF (dating app....yep, online dating). All it took was 10 minutes before I shot out of bed headed straight to my computer to type out this blog and become one of those annoying people that live all their drama out on the internet. lol.
Current Mood: Dating Sucks and Men are Stupid.
Exhibit A: "Between getting married and getting laid, where do you land?"
Exhibit B: "Wanna help me 'relax' ;)"
Exhibit C: "Wanna hook up?"
Exhibit D: "Hey sexy."
This is just to name a few. So now I ask the question....Where have all the good men gone? If your first response is "Well they're not on the internet" let me tell you a little story. A few weekends ago a male friend of mine messaged me on a Saturday morning, invited me to breakfast, and then said "Just Kidding"....like we're in fucking high school. (yes this is a real story) So I can reasonably conclude that all men...real and virtual...suck.
ANOTHER STORY: Today I was carrying a 24 pack of water into the house. My roommates husband started grabbing it to carry it for me. I insisted that I could get it. He said "another stubborn woman like someone else I know [looks at wife]" I responded by staying "I prefer independent over stubborn". This isn't a bad story...Aaron was very nice to offer to carry it for me. I appreciated it. It did get me thinking though....
I am capable of a lot of things. I know my way around a screw driver, I pay my own bills, I enjoy mowing the lawn, I take care of my own car maintenance, I can usually fix my own computer, I'm capable of handling my own emotions (got my besties to lean on if needed), I am not an expert at everything, but I can get the job done most of the time. I don't NEED a man in my life. I just WANT one.
And here's the problem being a girl like me....what man doesn't want to feel needed?
Finding a guy that is confident enough to handle an 'independent' female is difficult enough. Combine that with my personality, which I fully admit can be combative at times ;) I feel it's time to accept defeat and purchase the cat lady starter kit. lol.
No really, I'm not giving up. I've got a long way to go before I throw in the towel, but I would like to start a conversation.
Is this an issue others deal with regularly or is my situation unique?
Am I wrong to hold out hope for a real gentleman? The type of guy that will take me out on a real date and ask questions to get to know me? Are there men out there still interested in this form of dating, or is sex really the only thing on your mind?
I don't want to dumb myself down to make you feel important. I don't want to downplay my skills and abilities so you can feel good. Lets build each other up. Lets compliment each other on our strengths. Lets encourage each other to overcome our weaknesses.
Ladies, Gentleman....any thoughts or advice...I'd love to hear it!
Jacque
(I'll probably regret this post in the morning. lol)
The weekend started out pretty hopeful. It was the first weekend in a while that I didn't have big plans, I knew I would be able to sleep and be lazy. I even had a date (quick meet and greet) scheduled Saturday.
I've had a cold all week but I didn't want to be groggy Saturday so I didn't take NyQuil and I set my alarm so I could get up early and fancy up for this guy I've never met. Now before all my friends with kids judge me for having to set an alarm for 10:00am...let me just say this...you decided to have those babies so don't you judge me for being single and childless, lol ;)
30 minutes before I'm supposed to meet this dude, he messages me and says he's still got a ton of errands to run and would like to reschedule. WTF. We'll fortunately for him I've got a pretty thick skin and besides, hanging out with my Mom at Costco is a much better use of my time.
So naturally after experiencing the devastation of being stood up I decided it was only right that I treat myself to a facial at the Hand & Stone Massage place in Draper...money we'll spend ladies. Just do it. Don't think about it. Just do it. Weekend redeemed.
To make the weekend even more epic myself and a friend of mine (Heather) crashed our mutual friends night out with her husband (Sarah). You two are the best! We followed it up with a showing of Beauty and the Beast - GLORIOUS!
Soooooo why the blog post right....We'll flash forward to today. I took NyQuil last night so I could get some solid rest. Turns out when I sleep more than 7 hours I have dreams about bears and wolves...unpleasant. I didn't wake up until 11:30am (don't judge me). It was delightful. I went to my moms house to make myself an omelet. Why my Mom's you ask? Because I wanted to visit with my cat. (judge me...I don't care).
After spending most of the day being lazy AF I did my nails and came home, showered (even shaved the legs #effort) and then painted my toenails (pail pink sparkle...I know you were wondering).
Just as I was laying down to decide if I was ready to sleep or watch hours and hours of Netflix I had a renewed motivation to forge ahead and find a new guy to chat with on POF (dating app....yep, online dating). All it took was 10 minutes before I shot out of bed headed straight to my computer to type out this blog and become one of those annoying people that live all their drama out on the internet. lol.
Current Mood: Dating Sucks and Men are Stupid.
Exhibit A: "Between getting married and getting laid, where do you land?"
Exhibit B: "Wanna help me 'relax' ;)"
Exhibit C: "Wanna hook up?"
Exhibit D: "Hey sexy."
This is just to name a few. So now I ask the question....Where have all the good men gone? If your first response is "Well they're not on the internet" let me tell you a little story. A few weekends ago a male friend of mine messaged me on a Saturday morning, invited me to breakfast, and then said "Just Kidding"....like we're in fucking high school. (yes this is a real story) So I can reasonably conclude that all men...real and virtual...suck.
ANOTHER STORY: Today I was carrying a 24 pack of water into the house. My roommates husband started grabbing it to carry it for me. I insisted that I could get it. He said "another stubborn woman like someone else I know [looks at wife]" I responded by staying "I prefer independent over stubborn". This isn't a bad story...Aaron was very nice to offer to carry it for me. I appreciated it. It did get me thinking though....
I am capable of a lot of things. I know my way around a screw driver, I pay my own bills, I enjoy mowing the lawn, I take care of my own car maintenance, I can usually fix my own computer, I'm capable of handling my own emotions (got my besties to lean on if needed), I am not an expert at everything, but I can get the job done most of the time. I don't NEED a man in my life. I just WANT one.
And here's the problem being a girl like me....what man doesn't want to feel needed?
Finding a guy that is confident enough to handle an 'independent' female is difficult enough. Combine that with my personality, which I fully admit can be combative at times ;) I feel it's time to accept defeat and purchase the cat lady starter kit. lol.
No really, I'm not giving up. I've got a long way to go before I throw in the towel, but I would like to start a conversation.
Is this an issue others deal with regularly or is my situation unique?
Am I wrong to hold out hope for a real gentleman? The type of guy that will take me out on a real date and ask questions to get to know me? Are there men out there still interested in this form of dating, or is sex really the only thing on your mind?
I don't want to dumb myself down to make you feel important. I don't want to downplay my skills and abilities so you can feel good. Lets build each other up. Lets compliment each other on our strengths. Lets encourage each other to overcome our weaknesses.
Ladies, Gentleman....any thoughts or advice...I'd love to hear it!
Jacque
(I'll probably regret this post in the morning. lol)
Comments
If you figure out any tips let me know chick!
You are beautiful hang in there.